I'm Proud of my Dad....

[Linda]

good on your dad, mines always been "old" (still younger than mum, but thats another long long story!) refuses to come playing with me me in my truck, winces if i make him watch it on video! got most upset when i took a "diversion" down a greenlane on the way back from the tip

hehe - sounds just like my dad... he really cant understand why I want that great big truck, and if I have to have it why don't I keep it clean??

[Medieval Dave]

Make sure you keep the keys to your truck away from your dad. Otherwise the tractor will be getting stuck again, pulling out your Surf!!

He already did that, that's what gave me the idea of buying him a quad. I was a little miffed about the surf untill his mate terry got the mark2 landy stuck there - terry is a hillfarmer and they are the best practical offroad drivers there are.

As to whether I expected that he should be stuck in a chair by 60, I certainly didn't. Of course 60 year olds are capable of riding quad bikes etc. the sad fact is though that most of the ones I work with would rather play golf (i know, I tried to organise off roading for a bit of a trip from work, and they insisted on going golfing instead, including a few young fogies)

Now sorry if I offend any golf fans here, but it's just rubbish.

So I wasn't saying I was proud of my dad because he isnt pushing up daisies. I'm proud of him because, unlike many other dads, he would rather be up to his ears in mud than play golf and wouldnt be seen dead in a pringles sweater.

But just to make sure I will show him my patronising post. And then I'll polish 'is bald spot with a rag and tell him it's dazzling me.

Dave

[da SLUG man]

my dad's an old boring git too!!... sits in an armchair all day!!

but his mate charlie (childhood pal) is great!!... he's an explosives expert and has been in oman doing pipelines for the last 30 years... some of his stories make me realise that my dad's not so much different to me after all!!
(embarrasses the hell out of my dad though!!)

[da SLUG man]

oh, and he's 63never rode my quadbike either!!...

[kitesurf_phil]

Er he is only 60. Its not old, Do you think at that age he should be welded to a chair with pipe and slippers ? Theres 60 yr olds still flying commercial aircraft, commading ships, working farms , driving cranes, diggers, tractors and artics. Driving a quad or a Surf is well within the average 60 yr olds capabilities

Show him the thread and see what he thinks of your patronising comments.

Bogus

I think you are missing the (intended) point. I am proud of my Mum because she retired aged 60, got bored after 6 months and volunteered her time to a centre for kids with learning difficulties. Since retiring she has mastered driving an all-terrain buggy, been passenger/co-pilot in a tandem microlite, climbed/absailed cheddar gorge, taught 15 of her peers to swim and daily rides her push bike the six miles into town, instead of festering until the once-a-week dial a ride comes round. There are an awful lot of people our age (i'm 47 and some of my old school mates are mentally older than my Mum) who think it is all downhill at forty, let alone sixty. I say good on the fella. I am not being patronising. To prove it I will challenge him to a roller blade race down their drive......................... .........just as soon as my Mum gives me my blades back!!!!

I think the point is to grow old disgracefully.

[Bogus]

The point, as I understand it, is that Dave is saying - hey look at my dad messing about and doing stupid things in the mud with a quad. Isn't he cool.

Dave clearly much admires his dad - I doubt he'd be posting this in an insulting way, though I guess I can see how you might have read it that way?

My dad was far to "grown up" at 60 to ever do anything like that (and at 50 and at 40 - dont remember before that)

Thats the trouble I guess with this "detached" way of communicating, Not seeing the eyes and not hearing the voice inflections can often lead to not getting the real understanding. I knew the original post was made by a man who is hugely proud of his Dad and that itself is great. I still however cant shake the thought that the whole thread is still patronising towards 60 yr olds. I realise that depending on our own life experiences each of us will "see" something different in a thread. So many of the contributors seem to think that its somehow cool and maybe unusual to see people of a certain age having fun in a "good on you old man" kind of way when to me it seems pretty normal and unremarkable. I suppose its a bit like teenagers thinking that theyre the only ones having sex and when they find out that 40 yr old mum and dad are doing they either gross out or maybe do the same " good on them. the wrinklies are still at it " thing
I cant change the way I think and I still see the thread as patronising to 60 yr olds. I do however understand that that is not what was intended. I know you are all lovely people who were expressing pride in your parents and I hope my kids think as much of me. Maybe I,ll just keep my thoughts to myself in future

Bogus

[Andy W]

Thats the trouble I guess with this "detached" way of communicating, Not seeing the eyes and not hearing the voice inflections can often lead to not getting the real understanding. I knew the original post was made by a man who is hugely proud of his Dad and that itself is great. I still however cant shake the thought that the whole thread is still patronising towards 60 yr olds. I realise that depending on our own life experiences each of us will "see" something different in a thread. So many of the contributors seem to think that its somehow cool and maybe unusual to see people of a certain age having fun in a "good on you old man" kind of way when to me it seems pretty normal and unremarkable. I suppose its a bit like teenagers thinking that theyre the only ones having sex and when they find out that 40 yr old mum and dad are doing they either gross out or maybe do the same " good on them. the wrinklies are still at it " thing
I cant change the way I think and I still see the thread as patronising to 60 yr olds. I do however understand that that is not what was intended. I know you are all lovely people who were expressing pride in your parents and I hope my kids think as much of me. Maybe I,ll just keep my thoughts to myself in future

Bogus

You are kidding are you not !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now thats gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Medieval Dave]

Maybe I,ll just keep my thoughts to myself in future

Bogus

Don't do that - there's plenty of room for us all to disagree, argue, whatever, without anybody needing to get upset.

[Linda]

You are kidding are you not !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now thats gross!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah - the thought of 40 year olds kissing and cuddling - errr GROSS!!!!!

[Medieval Dave]

That doesn't happen does it?

My wife says you have to stop that sort of thing once you have children?

Dave

[Chillitt]

well thats very dissapointing. im 39 and a half. i wish someone had told me sooner....

[AndyLala]

Bogus... some may not agree with your comments, some will, and some won't understand. But without your opinion, none of us will think. So please don't hold back, express, vent and comment. It will help all of us understand our world better.


My thoughts... lets celebrate people regretting the things they haven't done, rather than the things they have. Note: Age had absolutely nothing to do with it.

My understanding of the initial thread, was that this is what he was doing. celebrating his dad having a good giggle on his birthday.

[Bogus]

Moral of the Story

Youre Never too old to have a happy childhood

Bogus

[DaveD]

Moral of the Story

Youre Never too old to have a happy childhood

Bogus

Well said that man......
I'm just jealous of Dave's dad's new toy.......

[da SLUG man]

Yeah - the thought of 40 year olds kissing and cuddling - errr GROSS!!!!!

i dunno... some of them are alright!