Job dilemna help please

[SassyT]

Hi guys, this could get a bit long, but would really appreciate some impartial opinions as I am just turning it round & round in my head (Linda & Tony feel free to put in even though you are not impartial)

I currently work for an event as an accountant, have been there 3 1/2 years, I work my a$$ off for this company, its very high stress at times, June July & August are completely manic, my workload increases all the time & I do alot of work extra from home. I take lots of sh1t, work with some incredibly exasperating people & they don't pay me enough, BUT if I have the farrier/vet or even a lesson (horse-riding) I can go in late/leave early, can work from home on occasion if son is off school (single mum) and its flexible in the winter to a certain extent. Is a 15 minute journey to the office, 2 weeks on site at event time & travel to & from site for meetings & to london for meetings probably once a month. There are no prospects for moving up the ladder, but I quite enjoy the job.

They dumped on me so much this year I went to an agency & looked elsewhere. Because I passed my final exams 18 months ago & have varied experience I am very employable - if I stay where I am a few more years my knowledge will be going out of date & I would probably have to side step before moving up. I have 2 second interviews next week.

1st one I am the only one going to 2nd interview, is based 10-15 mins from home, is a challenging but maybe not too interesting role, completely in the limelight as dealing with big cheeses, but good prospects & no travel. Almost £5K more than I am on now.

2nd one is based an hour from home, sounds like a fantastic, if challenging role, is almost £10K more than I am on now, pluse car & fuel car, but not really convinced the commute would fit into my life.

3rd option is to give the place I work the chance to offer me a similar package & then stay, although this would mean less advancement, obviously it means more flexibility. Future a few years down the line is uncertain (not necessarily job wise) as director will retire and we are currently based in his garden in a barn conversion.

Just after some opinions really, and if you are still with me after all that I would appreciate help.

Thanks

[darkdezigns]

go with your gut instinct!im 30 and 14th job!but been with this job 4yrs now

[yoshie]

Surley every employer open to you as a mimimum requires you to be able to make a decision

[surfstar]

I have always been told to use the ethos that a job position should be 3-4 years long to avoid getting in your comfort zone and to keep your skill set fresh thus making you more employable. But thats just me and 4 very succesful friends of mine's opinion
Go for the other jobs, its good to get your teeth stuck into something different and like i said get out of your comfort zone

[Woodzie]

Hi Sassy, Melons here.....I think you should follow your heart, I admit I have turned down several jobs because I couldn't be bothered to commute even though attractive salaries have been offered. It is harder climbing the career ladder being a parent that is why at the end of the day you've got to be happy in what you do otherwise it just doesn't work. Be careful of promises made by your current employer to make you stay as often they never meet your expectations and satisfy the reasons for why you looked elsewhere......

Helen.

[darkdezigns]

helen,melons?lol am i missin sumthin here??

[pirate-storm]

i agree with melons do what your heart tells you an 10k a year extra might seem good but it could also be more cr@p n not what you relly want.people can only advise at end of day but it still comes down to you n what you really want outta life.
then you got your kid to think bout also so it comes down to whats best for you both at this time if your a single parent im sure it can be hard at times. least with job your in now you can work from home if you need to be home when they have school holidays etc. so do what you think best for all

[plumb bob]

I agree with Melons, your current employer ( I know the type of people you're on about) will not want to give you more money for doing the same job, if they don't appreciate you now, then they ain't gonna appreciate you any more when you cost them more money.

It's time to move on, get a different perspective on life, and a fresh start.

Robert

[yoshie]

10k extra is plenty to pay child care you need adult conversation and company sometimes it aint selfish it's normal. It will also help you to be a good parent if you are happy they will be happy

[Woodzie]

helen,melons?lol am i missin sumthin here??

Melons is my missus .............she has her own sign on , but uses mine as it's on the other computer



no it's not my alter ego

[gwh200]

Melons is my missus .............she has her own sign on , but uses mine as it's on the other computer



no it's not my alter ego

i thought you were called sandra at the weekends!!

[Woodzie]

i thought you were called sandra at the weekends!!

Sorry but the bra don't fit any more

[darkdezigns]

was gettin worried,thought maybe at weekeds?lolol

[MadcapMagician]

your current employer ( I know the type of people you're on about) will not want to give you more money for doing the same job, if they don't appreciate you now, then they ain't gonna appreciate you any more when you cost them more money.

It's time to move on, get a different perspective on life, and a fresh start.

What he said.

After 3 years of lies and carrots (of the stick type) from her last employer, my wife has just (last week, actually!) got a job paying more than twice what she was being paid by the lying farquhars....doing the same thing!!! Her new employers were aghast during her interview when she told them how little she was on. A week later they told her, when they rang to tell her she'd got the job, that they were going to pay her £KER-CHING! because that's what they felt she was worth, and that she'd been seriously underpaid at her last place!

Think I could well be getting a body lift a lot sooner than I'd budgeted for...

[Highlander1]

I'm with Plumb Bob.